Dearest Reader, I was at a Diwali potluck at a friend’s house a few days ago. Picture jasmine-scented candles, marigold garlands, a makeshift mandir, bright-colored clothing, game cards, and a table of sumptuous ghee-laden food (which I love, occasionally). That’s not all there was. The living room also had a corner table for gifts—occupied by a tower of 10 sweet boxes (mostly Soan Papdi) piling up atop one another. After everyone had their share of beer, we joked about the sweets, unanimously agreeing to call it the diabetes table. Side note: REAL Soan Papdi, one that doesn’t come out of a box, is frickin’ amazing. It's airy, pulled by hand, and melts in your mouth. If you haven't had it yet, you are missing out. Gift-giving (in India, especially) has a predictable pattern. Say a loud yes, if the rubric looks like this:
However, gifting culture/etiquette is not something we are ‘taught’ growing up and you just have to 'figure it out' as an adult. This holiday spell, I’ve been grappling with the gift-giving conundrum again: How do we give meaningful gifts in a world where people have everything?
Why is it intentional gifting importantA lot of gifting (today) is rooted in consumerist excess. We all know a family of two cannot possibly consume 10 sweet boxes, and if they are health conscious (they will be blaming you for the excess sugar, haha). Did you know? Researchers have found that early civilizations like the Homo Sapiens gave presents like unusually shaped rocks or polished animal teeth to strengthen social connection and express appreciation to others. We seemed to have moved away from the core reason for gifting: strengthening human bonds. A lot of us consider it obligatory or merely a reciprocation of last year's exchange. This is also the paradox of gift-giving. Also, according to a 2020 survey, 3 in 5 Americans have lied about liking a gift they’ve received. Clearly, it takes away from the joy rooted in the idea of gifts. So how can we truly offer presents that help us show genuine love and gratitude? In my opinion, for a lot of people, the effort and intention behind a gift will matter more than the gift itself. I’d suggest considering offering experiences over tangible gifts any day. You already know that nobody had a great story from buying cookies at the store, but the homemade batch of cookies that you glazed with the recipient’s name? That is memorable Gift Suggestions That Aren’t Sweet BoxesQuick reminder that this isn’t an exhaustive list but it will nudge you to be thoughtful about your gifts. Are you ready to impress folks with your gifting chops? Let’s unwrap!
Yay! I hope that some of these ideas work with you and your loved ones. I am also looking to up my gifting game, so hit reply and share the gift ideas that you have appreciated receiving or are proud of giving. Remember that a meaningful and intentional gift will always hit the home run, and bring joy to the giver and receiver. Sending joy and festive vibes your way! And that’s all for today. See you in two weeks! Fun Corners of the Internet
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